Love yourself first

…because you can’t give it to anybody else if you yourself do not have it.

The idea seems simple. Can you ever give anybody money if you yourself do not have it? Somehow, the answer to this question seems obvious.

I am one of those who believe that money is energy. It can also be viewed as a resource.

Let’s take a look at other existential forms of energy and/or resources:

  • love
  • trust
  • confidence
  • joy
  • kindness
  • food
  • beauty
  • wisdom
  • … and so many more!

Now, similarly to how it works with money, would ever be able to give love and care if you yourself do not have enough? It suddenly makes sense why people say first learn to love yourself, then the love of others will come. I.e., the healthy selfishness I love so much to talk about now has substantial grounds to exist.

Another important principle regarding the act of giving has to do with needs. You want to give another person something that satisfies their needs. For example, if you see a starving dog, would it make sense to give him $10? Probably not, eh?

So, if your mom wants to talk to you, would it be enough to just send her your picture? Or, if your employee has a need for position that would give them more authority (and, not so much for money, although I admit these days it is quite rare), why give them a raise?

Once again:

  • before you give it to someone else, make sure you have given it to yourself. Then, when you have enough to share, give out!
  • when giving it to someone else, make sure this is what they need

About shyzandra

Linguist, runner, INFP
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